Body Positive & Inclusive Language Resources for Educators
Size does matter, So do words
We know myONE®’s custom sizing and condoms help address the important issue facing up to 88% of condom users: improper fit and discomfort. Once customers try our perfect fit condoms, they rave about what a difference proper fit makes. No longer do they have to hold on to their condom during sex (because condoms are too long or loose) nor do they have painful rings on their penis or loss of erection (because condoms are too tight).
Yes, condoms can stretch over an arm or a watermelon – but did anyone ever ask the watermelon how it feels? There are bones in arm, but a penis can go instantly soft if a condom is too tight (no bones in “boner”). Plus, that activity of putting a condom over an arm to try and prove condoms fit everyone completely forgets about people for whom condoms are actually too loose on, and who experience condom slippage. Doesn’t everyone deserve to have a comfortable experience with condoms?
To help inspire more body positive conversations about condom size and fit, we put some tips on how to have that conversation with a partner, client or anyone who struggles with the standard condom size not fitting right.
But first, some notes about language:
- Avoid gender-specific terms, such as talking about “boyfriend/girlfriend” or “husband/wife” – there are simple ways to swap in “partner” or “partners” to avoid alienating.
- When discussing anatomy, remember that all bodies are different,especially for members of the LGBTQ+ community – while “penis” and “erection” are generally accepted, you will want to be cognizant of using gendered possessives like “man’s” or “male’s” in front of them.
- If sexual orientation or gender identity are part of your discussion, we advise that you ask open-ended questions like, “Do you feel comfortable sharing your sexual orientation or gender identity?” or “How do you identify in terms of…?” rather than offering verbal multiple-choice answers that may be limiting.
"At 44 years old I've had a happy and varied sex life—but this is the first time I have ever had satisfying sex with a condom on. I had thought I hated condoms, when it turns out I just hate condoms that don't fit—I will definitely be ordering more soon. My wife also thanks you!"
"Being slightly smaller than average I needed something that didn't slip—standard condoms had too much excess at bottom. I found the exact size I needed and it's perfect, no movement at all and even makes me feel a bit bigger rolling the full lot down my shaft! Thanks!"
"Being on the larger scale I have always struggled to fit into condoms found in shops—even XL condoms and king size were no use to me. These condoms really are truly amazing and I can now enjoy sex without my condom being too tight."
"I have never found a condom that truly fitted until I found you. Thank you!"
"This product is the best thing ever invented. I always had trouble in the past getting condoms that fitted perfectly and searched everywhere for different types. These condoms have a feeling like no other and almost feel like having nothing on. I myself know that typical condoms don't feel great and I have had unprotected sex due to this."
"I was skeptical that you could fix my issue, which is condoms slipping off during the actual sex. Suffice to say you fixed it perfectly and I will be ordering more tomorrow!"
"My penis actually enjoyed being wrapped in latex. Usually a condom feels really tight - using this condom didn't. It is remarkable. Ordering more tomorrow."
TOP 5 DOS & DON’TS
|DO focus on how myONE condoms can address many concerns with condom sizing, fit and comfort||DON’T perform a stretch test using your arm or any other item — evidence shows us that stretchiness is less of an issue than comfort|
|DO use language that is inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations||DON’T use gendered terms like “boyfriend,” “girlfriend,” “husband” or “wife,” or descriptions of gender such as “male partner”|
|DO rely on data and consumer research about how common issues with condom fit and discomfort are, and remind users that they are among the 88% of users who do not find proper fit with traditionally sized condoms||DON’T alienate customers by implying (accidentally or otherwise) that their bodies are inadequate or unusual (too big, too small, etc.), and that is why they are experiencing issues with condom use|
|DO respect customers’ comfort level with discussing a subject as sensitive and personal as condom size||DON’T assume every customer has the same comfort level, issue/concern or experience discussing condoms and safer sex options|